We have heard Angelica saying “I am too picky” and she is the one, who can't keep a guy, so it must be true… Or could it mean something else?
There are at least two situations when women fall on this excuse. First situation is when they aren’t really open for a new relationship, but they meet new guys anyway, because they feel lonely.
“I go on dates, but I don’t like anybody. They don't interest me. Maybe it is because I am too picky…”
Instead you may ask: “Is there anything that I am doing that is preventing me to start a real relationship?" (Tough question for the moment, but keep reading my articles and it will start making more sense.)
Second situation is about perfectionists who try to prove themselves to an unachievable level. They don't accept their own flaws and try to hide them. Because of holding themselves to such high expectations, they can’t accept flaws of others either.
“There is something wrong with the guys all the time. I don’t know why, it starts all passionate but after a while, when I show my real face, they freak out. I can’t be with a guy like that.”
Sooner or later the first passion wears off and the painful spot of a perfectionist gets triggered. She exaggerates the situation. The man is shocked and criticizes her back. Criticism is the one thing perfectionist can not handle calmly. Ideal relationship soon turns into less than ideal. :-)
For the purpose of this article, notice that the “too picky” excuse has nothing to do with having too many requirements, rather with personal struggles at deeper levels.