Why did I become a dating coach & NLP coach
Happily single? missing a hug!
I was 32, divorced, frustrated and stuck. After all the bad experiences, I became scared to get hurt again. I still wanted to have a nice relationship, but I didn't realize I was sabotaging myself. Despite going occasionally out, I wasn't really open for a new relationship. I was living in the past and doubted my future. I persuaded myself that I was happy to be single. However, when I saw couples holding hands, it made me feel sad.
I realized I was behaving like a “good girl”
I asked myself: “What am I doing wrong? Why other women get so much and I don’t?“ Eventually I realized I was behaving like a “good girl”.
Training in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) had a big impact on me. I started becoming more assertive and confident. I told myself I deserve the best and started treating myself that way. I noticed during this period, there was a sudden increase of men interested in me. The funniest story was with a man who left his restaurant meal unfinished and chased me on the street when I was practicing “Confidence with a smile” exercise. Soon I reached a state of mind where I was READY to date. I had a clear goal, motivation and the conviction it was possible.
Men were fighting to impress me
I decided, this time I would choose the man, instead of being chosen. I was very popular and men were literally fighting to impress me. Within one month I met my future husband. It seemed like magic. Fast, effortless and fun! Today I enjoy his company, especialy when we make jokes together. For the first time I feel my man is really there for me.
Helping other women finding a partner
I got inspired by this fast result and wanted to help others. I noticed it is not so much the practical things about dating that make a difference but the time before that. What takes the longest is to reach the READY state of mind. After that, the results come surprisingly fast.
I wrote a book Mindful Diva Dating, where I described how to reach such state of mind and how to be a balanced woman that men are crazy for.
Through the discussions with my readers I realized that they would appreciate having a personal guide to help them through the process and assist with the mental exercises.
NLP workshops and private coaching
The result comes much faster when people get guidance not only on the logical aspect, but especially support to overcome obstacles in the subconsciousness.
I started organizing NLP workshops focused on dating and offered private coaching. My clients were often guided through NLP techniques comparable to Regression therapy.
Bestselling author - 7 pillars of self-confidence
From my work it became obvious that mental blocks originate in similar situations in childhood. I identified 7 pillars of self-confidence. After my daughter was born, I was thinking how to safely guide her through these areas. I thought about sharing this information with other parents. In 2021, I published a book about children's self-confidence in Slovakia (my home country), which became an instant bestseller and soon was it translated to other languages.
SPEAKING ON THE NATIONAL TV ABOUT SELF CONFIDENCE
I was invited by the national TV in Slovakia to share my knowledge about the 7 pillars of self confidence.
Where in childhood is healthy confidence supported or weakended?
Would you like to chat about your situation? You can contact me at info@michaelaray.com or fill out the below form and I will come back to you to schedule a consulation that fits both of our schedules. Looking forward to talking to you. :-) Michaela