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How I escaped a serial killer - Deep crash state attracts creeps


I didn’t know my profile looked ideal to be a victim of a serial killer, but he thought so! Steve was a security guard in a company where I worked. He had access to my employee profile, where it clearly stated: foreigner, recently divorced.

Who can be a better target that a lonely, sad, depressed woman, with no family, friends or a husband? He started his hunt on me. 

He wanted to find out whether I was all alone, with no support network and nobody to miss me if I was dead. As I share in my book “Mindful Diva Dating: Get in your zone & attract Mr. Right”, depression, grief and hopeless loneliness would mean a deep crash state with a very low energy frequency. Ideal target for creeps.

While he had some information about me, I had no clue about his disturbing past. The below story, published in the local newspaper, could give you an idea about his character.

A prostitute ran outside naked from a policeman’s house. She was running away as fast as she could and screamed for help. She was scared for her life when he became physically aggressive, forced her to get blindfolded, tied up and act as a slave to his sadistic ideas. Luckily he did not catch her and that saved her life. She filed a complaint about his behavior and as a result he was fired from the Milwaukee police department."

Before continuing my story, according to the model of energy frequencies, mentioned in my book a prostitute is in a very low frequency with people who have low self-respect. And where is an abusive person listed? Also in a very low frequency, among the ones who have no respect for others. He thought of me as a potentially sad, depressed woman. Where would that be on the energy frequencies? Also very low, right at his target.

After being fired from the Milwaukee police department, he got a job as a security guard where I worked and put his eyes on me.


He talked to me every morning, followed me to my cubical and wondered whether I was up for a date. He was persistently asking me a lot of questions about my private life;  whether I had any relatives in US, whether I had many friends and a boyfriend.

Now I understand, he was assessing whether anybody would look for me if I was dead and whether I was in his target frequency zone*, susceptible to his seduction. (*Note: The lowest and a dangerous energy frequency is "shame" - more about shame impact can be found here: https://www.michaelaray.com/five-shades-of-hidden-shame-that-sabotages-your-relationships/)

He wasn’t my type at all. I declined his invitation with an excuse I was dating somebody else. Even then, he continued following me around the campus and always tried to engage in some conversation. 

I was getting nervous about his unwanted attention and complained to my boss. She thought it was cute and innocent. She was joking with our secretary that Michaela is getting a lot of attention from one of the security guards. Our secretary had a loud mouth and at the first opportunity she scolded Steve and told him to make sure “his people” leave “her people” alone. She didn’t know it was himself who was pestering me.

This was embarrassing. On the bright side he finally stopped chasing me. I didn’t fit into his target profile. I had a boyfriend and my colleagues were my support network.

A few months later I moved to Europe. Shortly after that my former boss called me to tell me the gruesome news: “Do you remember the security guard who wanted to date you? “He was convicted of killing three women, cutting them in pieces and stuffing them in suitcases.”

Whaaaat??? I was shocked to hear this and a cold chill went up my spine. I was lucky to be alive. The loudmouth secretary saved my life!

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Watch out for the following two types of dangerous situations:

  1. Physically dangerous men

The serial killers often seek positions of power, and jobs that can provide it. Such dangerous individuals seek lonely women, away from their support network and also mentally challenged women, who can’t judge the danger.

They propose to meet in remote locations, where nobody knows the woman or him. That was the case of one of the victims, who chatted with the security guard on internet and agreed to meet in a motel fifty miles away from her house just for sex. Such men often strike on the first date, so never agree to meet in a remote location with somebody you don’t know.

Only meet in public places, where there are a lot of people. Don’t show him where you live until you are sure he is safe. Do not maintain cyber discussions with anybody who hints abusive behavior, who makes inappropriate sexual comments or who proposes to meet you just for sex.

Additionally if you have any doubt, make comments such as you are meeting your friends right after the date.

The second dangerous group are professional scammers.

  1. Fake Mr. Right trying to get money from you

In the recent decade there has been a huge increase of cyber crime where the scammers use traps to get money out of naive people. While I knew about many of the quick schemes, I wasn’t aware about the one targeted at single women over 30. 

They misuse that fact that most women want to have serious relationship, feel pressure to start a family soon and they take advantage of the weakness that women want things to happen "naturally without doing anything." 

It has never been easier than today to do “target advertising” to a specific profile of women, for example using Facebook marketing features. While FBI and other national law enforcement agencies are aware of this, there is no international jurisdiction to prosecute the criminals, running their operations mostly from Nigeria and surrounding countries.

A psychological analysis of how exactly are they able to brainwash even intelligent women is described in detail in my book. 

Warning signs on this topic is also provided by Consumers Advocate Organization: 


I was avoiding to think about dating because I was afraid it would make me long for it even more. The workshop helped me get reassurance and insight into what I want and confidence that I can get it. I particularly liked the combination of the exercises with an 'unconscious' integration - that makes it very powerful.

Update after 6 months: I am 2,5 months in a relationship that I enjoy very much. I am especcialy happy that we are both able to understand each other and communicate in a mature way. 

Update 2 years later: Engagement :-) 

Olivia Brussels

It took me a while to move to the “real dating“ since I first had to get into my zone. Now, I am able to choose between many men. Thanks to the book "Mindful Diva Dating" and extra training support, I am on track. Even better news, meanwhile Mr. Right appeared!

I am very glad Michaela taught me her system how to undertake dating with joy and laughter. One of the best decisions I made in a long time!

Denise, 60 Antwerpen


Looking for life changes, new direction in career, relationship or overcoming losses and traumas? Let's have a private, discrete talk about what you are looking for. 

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